Hugs of Three: My Daddies and Me

Inclusive Children's Book Teaching Guide

What is this book about?

Written by two experienced psychologists, this sturdy board book celebrates family diversity, with an emphasis on infant and toddler development and the joys and comforts of daily routines carried out in the context of loving family relationships.

Through colorful illustrations and rhyme, Drs. Bromberg and Taravella deliver an important message about understanding and accepting the differences among families. Hugs of Three: My Daddies and Me encourages children to identify the similarities and differences between their families and the families of their peers so that they can become more aware of the many different types of families and celebrate the uniqueness of all families in an age-appropriate and meaningful way.

Although same-sex parents and their children will personally identify with this story, the message is a universal one that will resonate with children from every kind of family.

Who is depicted in this book?

LGBTQ+ led families

What early childhood themes and concepts does this book explore?

Families come in many forms
The ways that family members spend time together and care for one another
Familiar forms of play and daily routines, from waking up to going to bed

How does this book support anti-bias education?

Through its depiction of a loving family with two dads, this book offers representation to children in LGBTQ+ families. It also provides a space for them to demonstrate family pride and feel comfortable and confident about their own family structures.

Depending on how the book is shared or used—and the developmental level of the children—Hugs of Three: My Daddies and Me may be used to support the following core goal from the book, Anti-Bias Education for Young Children and Ourselves:

Identity—Teachers will nurture each child’s construction of knowledgeable and confident personal and social identities so that children will demonstrate self-awareness, confidence, family pride, and positive social identities.

How can this book be used to meet early childhood learning standards?

For all ages

Use Hugs of Three: My Daddies and Me to meet early childhood literacy standards >

For children from birth to age three

Teaching suggestion: Point out the familiar people and relationships depicted in the book. Relate them to each child, using the names preferred in the children's families (in this book, parents are always referred to as “dads”).

What Illinois Early Learning Guideline does this meet for children from birth to age three?

Developmental DomainLanguage Development, Communication and Literacy

Standard: Receptive CommunicationChildren demonstrate the ability to comprehend both verbal and nonverbal communication.

Indicators for children:

Recognizes and demonstrates understanding of familiar pictures, people and objects, such as saying “mama” while pointing to mother (16–24 months)
Responds verbally and/or nonverbally to comments or questions while engaged in conversations with both peers and adults (21–36 months)

Teaching suggestion: Point out and model ways that parents show love and care for their children, such as playing, tickling, comforting, singing/dancing, playing peek-a-boo, and cradling or cuddling a baby. You can also incorporate a baby doll into this book share to introduce pretend play and build language skills.

What Illinois Early Learning Guideline does this meet for children from birth to age three?

Developmental DomainLanguage Development, Communication and Literacy

Standard: Early LiteracyChildren demonstrate interest in and comprehension of printed materials.

Indicators for children:

Points to familiar pictures and actions in books (16–24 months)
Recites part of book from memory (21–36 months)

For preschoolers (ages three to five)

Teaching suggestion: Invite the children to talk about family structure (e.g., "Who is in your family? What is the same and different among families?"). Encourage them to discuss and draw/write about their own families (including the people that they consider to be a part of their family), the activities that they engage in together, and how those activities make them feel.

What Illinois Early Learning and Development Standards does this meet for preschoolers?

Social Studies Standard18BDevelop an awareness of self within the context of family.

Benchmark 18.B.ECa:

Understand that each of us belongs to a family and recognize that families vary.

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What other resources are available?

What are the four core goals of anti-bias education,and how do they apply to LGBTQ+ social justice?

Goal 1: IDENTITY

Teachers will nurture each child’s construction of knowledgeable and confident personal and social identities so that children will demonstrate self-awareness, confidence, family pride, and positive social identities.

Early childhood educators can work toward this goal by:

Encouraging children to express positive feelings about their gender identity and become comfortable with their own way of expressing gender

Creating opportunities for children of any gender to explore a wide range of opportunities, interests and activities

Encouraging children to share openly about their families

Goal 2: DIVERSITY

Teachers will promote each child’s comfortable, empathetic interaction with people from diverse backgrounds so that children will express comfort and joy with human diversity, use accurate language for human differences, and form deep, caring connections across all dimensions of human diversity.

Early childhood educators can work toward this goal by:

Teaching children about the diversity of people both within and across genders

Celebrating the uniqueness and assets of diverse families

Goal 3: JUSTICE

Teachers will foster each child’s capacity to critically identify bias and nurture each child’s empathy for the hurt that bias causes so that children will increasingly recognize unfairness (injustice), have the vocabulary they need to describe unfairness, and understand that unfairness hurts.

Early childhood educators can work toward this goal by:

Engaging in activities that help children recognize and challenge stereotypes

Helping children understand the unfairness of identity-focused harm

Questioning unfair depictions or erasure of LGBTQ+ families

Goal 4: ACTIVISM

Teachers will cultivate each child’s ability and confidence to stand up for oneself and for others in the face of bias so that children will demonstrate a sense of empowerment and the skills to act, with others or alone, against prejudice and/or discriminatory actions.

Early childhood educators can work toward this goal by:

Empowering children to claim their identity and gender

Modeling how to support others, regardless of their identities

Teaching children how to resist rejection, teasing or bullying

Interested in learning more about anti-bias education? Check out the book, Anti-Bias Education for Young Children and Ourselves, by Louise Derman-Sparks and Julie Olsen Edwards (Second edition, 2020)